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Counseling and Hypnotherapy in
Cincinnati Ohio
Why should we get counseling?
Getting counseling is often a
difficult choice. Thinking about how much it
costs, telling a complete stranger things you wouldn’t tell
your best friend,
and deciding who you’re going to see. What kind of person are
you seeing? What
if the counselor has more problems than you?
Then consider marriage/couples counseling. You have all of the concerns
I’ve listed
above (and others) along with the complication of two people in
counseling. The
two of you in that office, talking about the conflicts in your
relationship... *groan*
And you really don’t know what your spouse/partner is going
to say about the
relationship, about you, about what they want from counseling. And how
do you
know the person you’re talking to knows what he or she is
doing? And what if the
counselor blames you for the problems?
These are just some of the very real, very legitimate concerns about
getting
into counseling, especially marriage counseling, and there are a lot of
people
out there ready to take your money, and offer advice.
So why subject yourself to it?
Because
marriage/couples counseling works.
Talking about problems with a counselor who is open
minded, and provides good clinical service is helpful. You
will gain new insights into yourself, learn what it is your
spouse/partner needs from you, and learn a healthier way of asking for
what you need.
A lot of people I have seen over the years come into counseling
believing the
counselor is going to solve their problems. That does not happen. Each
person is
responsible for solving his or her own problems. In a relationship,
both have to
work for problems to be resolved.
Your counselor listens to what each of you has to say about the
problems in your
relationship and what’s been tried to solve these problems. A
competent
counselor listens without passing judgment on what is said, or
what
has been done in the relationship. The counselor helps people look at
their
problems differently, and examine other ideas about what can be done to
resolve
these problems.
Marriage/couples counseling is a process. Many times people want to fix
the problems in
2 or 3 sessions. I remind people that their problems didn’t
reach the point of
complication and pain in a brief period of time. Many times problems
have been
‘brewing’ for months or years. It takes some time
to understand the problems,
and then find solutions.
Couples counseling works. And it’s a lot cheaper
than a divorce.
If you have any questions or comments, I can be reached at 513-471-2250
or you
can email me at Dennis@CincinnatiTherapyGuy.com
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